With online dating,online social sites,online chat, online speed dating, online online online…yeah everything is online now and I do mean everything. Some say …”cool”…some say…”where is the real interaction”. For me I like both and you can have both if you keep it balanced. There is one thing I love about the internet though,Mysterious affection. What that means is connecting on a level you couldn’t in normal day to day life. So online you put your deepest emotions out there. Stories you couldn’t tell your best friend,things like this. The internet let you connect with people on a much deeper level at a faster pace then the real world. Where the mystery comes in is when you find someone who you admire very much you can show affection in so many ways without breaking the code of silence. It’s like you both are walking the same path in life “online” but you don’t want to breach into the real world. It would be at that point it becomes real and the mystery is over. The ones who don’t show there faces but have hearts of gold,the ones who wink,the ones who visit. Mysterious affection online is just like when you open a door for a women and they have the look of surprise on there face.So if someone online is having a bad day or is proud of something…let them know your there, it goes a long way in there lives.
Hope all had a good weekend and have lots of story’s to tell. I have a only one story that is on my mind since Friday after I read it. One of the blogs I was reading from a wonderful person hit me like a ton of bricks. It was not so much the over all idea but the way it was presented and written. I would make mention of who it is but want to show respect. As I read her blog I understood every detail as if I was watching her in my mind and could feel what she felt. As I re-read it multiple times I gathered the sense that some women are much deeper then men give them credit for. The reason I say worship the love of a women is because they are the mothers of life. They have a deeper sense of the word Love.
In days gone past women where worshiped for there unworldly abilities to provide guidance,love and understanding. Unfortunately the stronger women have become the more threatened man has become. This is not my theory it has been proven.
I read the inner beauty of a women on that Friday and it confirmed to me that there still are women out there who understand the deepness of the word love and what impact men have on there emotions. If you find a cold bitter manipulative women chances are it was a man who drove a knife into there soul.
I tip my hat to you..”R.J..”
(I will be joining the protest tomorrow morning until the 24th..the Government is trying to shut down freedom of speech and the freedoms of bloggers and websites. http://www.cbronline.com/news/google-and-wordpress-protest-anti-piracy-measures-in-us-congress-180112)
Join the protest or all your work could be gone.. enough is enough
I have asked myself this question a thousand times (OK once). I have meet some people who still love there ex’s but then say “yeah but we are not in love”. I understand caring for another person but using the word love to describe how they feel about them..yeah don’t get that. I think this word used to be very strong but has been over used to the point it took on another meaning. You really have to do some thinking when you ask yourself this..”am I in love ?” …or “do I like him or her very much ? “.
1. Do they fill my emotional needs
2. Do they want to see me sucseed
3. Do they still go out of there way to please me
4. Do they still appreciate what I do
5. Are they living for us or for themselves
6. Can they walk in the room and feel you (your energy)
7. do you still kiss (with emotion not lust)
8. do you still look in each others eyes
9. are we a team working on life’s problems
10. do you still sit on the couch together
If the answer is yes to 75% then you are In Love. If your only about 30% of this list talk to your partner and work on them. You can loose that energy if you let the simple things pass you buy. You can’t fix everything all the time and some things are just not meant to be but if deep down in your core of life you both still have the same feelings,don’t let them die or let life get in the way of your happiness.
Society is for ever changing,this is what we do. I have been reading some blogs
and speaking to a few people and there is a new (new to me) trend. Let me ask you something…what is up with dating more then one person at a time? I don’t quite fallow this. Since when was it OK to kiss another person while seeing someone else? Forget the physical aspects of it think of the mental aspects. Dating is not and should not be construed as a competition. If you are someone who dates more then one man or woman at a time you may have lost a very good relationship because of this. Before physically dating someone show some respect and get to know them well before you meet. Your wasting there time and yours and mentally playing with there emotions for no other reason but for self gain. There is nothing against talking to someone on chat or email but when it becomes real take the decision and be responsible and let them know you are committed to dating one person and that you have chosen them. If it doesn’t work out then move on and take what you have learned with you.
We have spoken about this in a previous post. Due to the questions I received, I feel we should cover a few more details that may help you along the way. I am speaking of this living day to day with it. I have been in 2 long distant relationships. One from Belarus and one from Canada.
The biggest hurdle is time. You can profess all the love and support in the world but at some point it has to become real. Time in these relationships is the killer. Think of it as a time bomb…tick…tick…tick. You have to understand that emotions will run very high because in your heart (mind) you have found your love in life. You can have the perfect plan put together and both work toward it with everything you have. Maybe it’s a year plan or even a 6 month plan. The issue is Time has a way of slowing you down (can’t quit your job as soon as you thought, trouble with and ex, money..and so on). There are so many factors that come without notice.
Long distant relationships can work and I know they do but before you talk with your heart, stop and think with your head and follow through with it. You need more then one or two meeting to decide if your going to follow through with it. Look at everything when you meet,your not on a vacation. Pay attention to the friends and family…use your head and investigate a little. Watch for signs and try to pick up on little details that would raise a Red Flag that may keep you from being happy in the relationship. Learn all you can about the person before you jump in with both feet….but jump before time runs out and the energy disappears…Tick…Tick…Tick
There is a certain heavenly bliss being single. I mean you don’t have to worry about where you go or who you talk to or even what your wearing. If your single,think about how long you have been single. It is relevant when you finally do meet someone. We say it is relevant because the person you just meet may not have been single for as long as you have been.
Maybe, some of you say “So?”. Well, a person who has been single for some time lacks the ability to just jump right into a relationship vs. someone who has just gotten out of a relationship. Some of you may always need someone in there life day to day. But as we know people have become more independent and have gotten away from the structure we call marriage. On your next date or when you meet someone and feel asking this kind of question is ok,ask them how long they have been single. It will give you a good idea how to manage your time with this person.
You would be surprised how many relationships have not blossomed because they didn’t take the time to understand the other persons needs at first. Remember, good relationships have good communication. Be honest with yourself so you can be honest with others and communicate it clearly.