With online dating,online social sites,online chat, online speed dating, online online online…yeah everything is online now and I do mean everything. Some say …”cool”…some say…”where is the real interaction”. For me I like both and you can have both if you keep it balanced. There is one thing I love about the internet though,Mysterious affection. What that means is connecting on a level you couldn’t in normal day to day life. So online you put your deepest emotions out there. Stories you couldn’t tell your best friend,things like this. The internet let you connect with people on a much deeper level at a faster pace then the real world. Where the mystery comes in is when you find someone who you admire very much you can show affection in so many ways without breaking the code of silence. It’s like you both are walking the same path in life “online” but you don’t want to breach into the real world. It would be at that point it becomes real and the mystery is over. The ones who don’t show there faces but have hearts of gold,the ones who wink,the ones who visit. Mysterious affection online is just like when you open a door for a women and they have the look of surprise on there face.So if someone online is having a bad day or is proud of something…let them know your there, it goes a long way in there lives.
Hope all had a good weekend and have lots of story’s to tell. I have a only one story that is on my mind since Friday after I read it. One of the blogs I was reading from a wonderful person hit me like a ton of bricks. It was not so much the over all idea but the way it was presented and written. I would make mention of who it is but want to show respect. As I read her blog I understood every detail as if I was watching her in my mind and could feel what she felt. As I re-read it multiple times I gathered the sense that some women are much deeper then men give them credit for. The reason I say worship the love of a women is because they are the mothers of life. They have a deeper sense of the word Love.
In days gone past women where worshiped for there unworldly abilities to provide guidance,love and understanding. Unfortunately the stronger women have become the more threatened man has become. This is not my theory it has been proven.
I read the inner beauty of a women on that Friday and it confirmed to me that there still are women out there who understand the deepness of the word love and what impact men have on there emotions. If you find a cold bitter manipulative women chances are it was a man who drove a knife into there soul.
I tip my hat to you..”R.J..”
Get out of the Winter Grip.. Wake up and get out of the house this weekend. Winter has a way of bringing your spirit down. The lack of sun (S.A.D.) and the cold winter gripping your body like a hug from someone you don’t want. I avoid the cold as much as possible so sorry if this post is a little harsh to the Winter Fairy’s out there who seem to love it. A good tip that may change your mood and keep your mind in one piece is to join indoor activities with people.Here is a good list of things you could do. I face this every winter and it is amazing how it makes you feel when you do join something.
2. Go tanning to combat (S.A.D)
3. Go to the mall once a week
4. Go to a Cafe with internet
5. Find little places to eat each week and hang out
6. Indoor paint Ball or Lazer Tag
7. Join an Art class at night.
8. Go to a Library
9. Go to a pub with friends and make it a habit
10. Volunteer your time
If your alone in winter it’s not much fun, so get out there. Just because it is cold doesn’t mean Old Man Winter has you locked up dragging you to the pits of hell. Also think of it this way, if your going out to these things and see a man or women doing the same..hmm I bet you already have one thing in command so chat it up. You never know when a good relationship will come knocking on the door even if the dam thing has an inch of snow and icicles hanging from the freakn’ door knocker…lol yes, I am not fond of winter.
We got a tip in this morning I wanted to share with you from one of our members. Betty had been speaking to another member for about a month. The other member decided to ask to meet some place local to him. This rose a big question in Betty’s mind…”Why would he make me drive so far ?”. Betty decided to go along with it and planned on asking him when she arrived.When she arrived the two had dinner. Now keep in mind they really hit it off and connected well online. She slid the question in while they where having coffee. His answer set her back in her chair. His response was “I didn’t want to drive all the way out there and find out it didn’t work out”. This sent so many signals to Betty that she was speechless for obvious reasons. So men out there,do not and I will repeat do not put yourself first when dating or meeting a women.
So today’s lists of don’ts: For Men
1. Pick a place that is close to you for a date
2. Automatically assume it may not work out
3. Waste the others persons time unless you are willing to commit to dating someone.
These simple things are being lost in our society. Dating in essence is natural . However, with the Internet it has opened a new bread of dater. With so many choices out there to see, we in general forget that these are real people with real lives. Serendipity Dating Cafe is not your average website. We are focusing on 30 and up. We do this because statistically people of this age have a better understanding of themselves. It’s not so much what you want in life at this age it is what you don’t want in your life. ..But this will be our next topic.