With online dating,online social sites,online chat, online speed dating, online online online…yeah everything is online now and I do mean everything. Some say …”cool”…some say…”where is the real interaction”. For me I like both and you can have both if you keep it balanced. There is one thing I love about the internet though,Mysterious affection. What that means is connecting on a level you couldn’t in normal day to day life. So online you put your deepest emotions out there. Stories you couldn’t tell your best friend,things like this. The internet let you connect with people on a much deeper level at a faster pace then the real world. Where the mystery comes in is when you find someone who you admire very much you can show affection in so many ways without breaking the code of silence. It’s like you both are walking the same path in life “online” but you don’t want to breach into the real world. It would be at that point it becomes real and the mystery is over. The ones who don’t show there faces but have hearts of gold,the ones who wink,the ones who visit. Mysterious affection online is just like when you open a door for a women and they have the look of surprise on there face.So if someone online is having a bad day or is proud of something…let them know your there, it goes a long way in there lives.
Love is like this…Finding a needle in a hat stack. Think about it, A big ol’ pile of hay standing right in front of you or better yet a picture you hold in your hand but the pile is the size of the world.Thousand’s and thousands of pieces of hay. Some big some small some with that green stuff I have no idea what it is and want to stay clear. But you know there is a needle in there somewhere right??…guess what? there is and there is more then one. We are taught “there somebody for everybody”..then if it doesn’t work out…guess what? they say ..”oooh you will find someone else”. Ever get the feeling that there are many many many needles out there to be found? I hope you do because there are and it is all about timing. Whether you want to hear it or not it is true. You will find that needle when your time has come. Even if your heart says..” I’m ready..grrr!!”. Sorry it just doesn’t work that way.Now for some maybe it’s not the same. Maybe your ok with meeting someone online or a speed date and it works for you and that’s grate.But most people to not fall into this category. They have a different way of finding that needle everyone talks about.I believe in fate or chance I have done the online thing and do now just to talk with people. I never did the speed dating thing,people are way to complicated to sum it up in 10 seconds…WTF shoot me before I sit down please.I am not judging those that do and if it works for you cool! but tell me how it goes. So if your looking for your needle in a hay stack,relax and don’t try so hard it will come and prick you when your not looking.
Hope all had a good weekend and have lots of story’s to tell. I have a only one story that is on my mind since Friday after I read it. One of the blogs I was reading from a wonderful person hit me like a ton of bricks. It was not so much the over all idea but the way it was presented and written. I would make mention of who it is but want to show respect. As I read her blog I understood every detail as if I was watching her in my mind and could feel what she felt. As I re-read it multiple times I gathered the sense that some women are much deeper then men give them credit for. The reason I say worship the love of a women is because they are the mothers of life. They have a deeper sense of the word Love.
In days gone past women where worshiped for there unworldly abilities to provide guidance,love and understanding. Unfortunately the stronger women have become the more threatened man has become. This is not my theory it has been proven.
I read the inner beauty of a women on that Friday and it confirmed to me that there still are women out there who understand the deepness of the word love and what impact men have on there emotions. If you find a cold bitter manipulative women chances are it was a man who drove a knife into there soul.
I tip my hat to you..”R.J..”
Ever walk by someone and get a feeling in your stomach and your heart races? You feel as is there is some kind of energy surrounding just you two at the same time? You are captured by a sent from that person that is making your palms sweat. It may be there perfume or a combination of other things but wow it can stop a train. I can remember a time when walking on a board walk. I was not looking for love, sex or anything in between. I was there just to take some photos and to watch the sun set. From a distance I could see a women doing the same. We where walking closer and closer to each other from different directions. As we walked closer I could see she was taking photo’s of the same boat as I was. There was a small Pier I was heading to and so was she. We both wound up going up the same Pier at the same time. (I laughed to myself “hmmm chance or fate”). Well, either way it was interesting to me. She said hello before a word could go from my brain to my tong. She was attractive and wearing a beautiful sun dress with a bathing suit underneath. At this point there where no sweaty palms of butterfly’s because the sea breeze was kinda strong. We walked out to the end of the pier with small talk. It was at that moment the winds stopped and and so did my heart. This women was like an afrodisiac. I noticed her mood change as well. She asked me what kind of Cologne I was wearing. Funny thing was I wasn’t wearing any and neither was she.
To make a long story short, we talked as the sun went down just her and I out on the Pier. I said to her “I have to be honest with you, I would love it if we could talk some more”. She agreed and we meet up later that night for drinks at a really cool Pier restaurant. Again, her sent mixed with everything else was driving me wild. When she would move it would blow into my face and send a thump to my heart. I had to tell her about this because I needed to know if she felt the same (I know first date…i’m nuts). Her face got so red and she laughed and said “ahhh I didn’t want to say anything…lol” She then began to tell me the same thing and said “feel my palms…lol”. It was right after that the night became fun and romantic. I was glad I was myself and spoke up because we had a wonderful night. We ended the night with a good kiss out on the Pier and where going to do a photo shoot the next day. I went to pick her up and she invited me in. She was packed and ready to go, again the raw attraction overtook us. I kissed her again and paused. I could see her wheels turning in her head…in about 2 seconds she said “awww screw this”…and grabbed my arm and we went upstairs…needless to say we didn’t get out of the house that much that day. We ordered takeout and never looked back. This went on for about 2 years we had two different lives in 2 different states and could not connect the two because of jobs and certain family needs. But you never forget that smell from someone special in your life.
(I will be joining the protest tomorrow morning until the 24th..the Government is trying to shut down freedom of speech and the freedoms of bloggers and websites. http://www.cbronline.com/news/google-and-wordpress-protest-anti-piracy-measures-in-us-congress-180112)
Join the protest or all your work could be gone.. enough is enough
I have asked myself this question a thousand times (OK once). I have meet some people who still love there ex’s but then say “yeah but we are not in love”. I understand caring for another person but using the word love to describe how they feel about them..yeah don’t get that. I think this word used to be very strong but has been over used to the point it took on another meaning. You really have to do some thinking when you ask yourself this..”am I in love ?” …or “do I like him or her very much ? “.
1. Do they fill my emotional needs
2. Do they want to see me sucseed
3. Do they still go out of there way to please me
4. Do they still appreciate what I do
5. Are they living for us or for themselves
6. Can they walk in the room and feel you (your energy)
7. do you still kiss (with emotion not lust)
8. do you still look in each others eyes
9. are we a team working on life’s problems
10. do you still sit on the couch together
If the answer is yes to 75% then you are In Love. If your only about 30% of this list talk to your partner and work on them. You can loose that energy if you let the simple things pass you buy. You can’t fix everything all the time and some things are just not meant to be but if deep down in your core of life you both still have the same feelings,don’t let them die or let life get in the way of your happiness.
Once upon a time there was this thing called being a Gentlemen. These days with independent strong women, some men find themselves forgetting the simple things that Gentlemen did to show respect to there date. Women still love this even if they say they don’t. If your out on a date for the first time or even your 100th time be the man, be the Gentlemen. Sure, there is your normal things you do like opening the door, complimenting on there looks and what you see on TV. But there are so many things you can do to show you are a Gentleman.
- Plan the date (all of it) but keep her interest at heart.
- Call 10 min. before you arrive to pick her up
- Bring her one flower (not everything in the store)
- Waite for her to say “ok, I’m ready to go”
- Tell her she looks wonderful but look in her eyes when you do this.
- Always let the women lead never step in front of her.
- Let her talk and feel comfortable
Try to think outside of the box on a date. Don’t act like a robot, women can see right through this. You will get an A for effort but the date will end sooner then you think. My point is don’t try so hard you look like a stumbling fool. Let the date flow but always think ahead to make her feel comfortable.
OK, Let me see if I can put this in a good way for some of you to understand. Although many say looks do not mean anything, I find it hard to believe in that. Looking at this scientifically we all have what they call a dent in our Genes. Some of you may have read this report. Some are attracted to long hair or a guy with muscles. Every single person on this planet has a normal list of dents they use when looking at a man or women to see if they are attracted to one another. Say you are looking at a profile photo and only see a drivers license type photo. Some look at it and may pick up 1 or 2 likes (dents) but need much more then that to form and attraction. Take a look at the list, this may help you when doing your profile in the future.
1. Take shots of you sitting in a chair
2. Take shots of you in normal movements
3. Take shots of you dressed up
4. Take shots of you in sweat pants (informal ware)
5. Take shots of you smiling in every picture you take.
6. Take shots holding things in your life (books you like and so on)
1. Take a shot with you kissing air ??
2. Take a picture as a want to be model
3. Take a picture just showing your privates
4. Post a picture that is blurry
5. post a picture that is so dark you just see your teeth and eyes
6. Look like your about to kill someone
The object of profile pictures is to tell a story of who you are. Take some time and get good amateur photos. Sure you can get a pro to take them but why? I think people would rather see what you look like the other 23 hours of the day not just a one time photo session.