Needle in a Hay Stack


Love is like this…Finding a needle in a hat stack. Think about it, A big ol’ pile of hay standing right in front of you or better yet a picture you hold in your hand but the pile is the size of the world.Thousand’s and thousands of pieces of hay. Some big some small some with that green stuff I have no idea what it is and want to stay clear. But you know there is a needle in there somewhere right??…guess what? there is and there is more then one. We are taught “there somebody for everybody”..then if it doesn’t work out…guess what? they say ..”oooh you will find someone else”. Ever get the feeling that there are many many many needles out there to be found? I hope you do because there are and it is all about timing. Whether you want to hear it or not it is true. You will find that needle when your time has come. Even if your heart says..” I’m ready..grrr!!”. Sorry it just doesn’t work that way.Now for some maybe it’s not the same. Maybe your ok with meeting someone online or a speed date and it works for you and that’s grate.But most people to not fall into this category. They have a different way of finding that needle everyone talks about.I believe in fate or chance I have done the online thing and do now just to talk with people. I never did the speed dating thing,people are way to complicated to sum it up in 10 seconds…WTF shoot me before I sit down please.I am not judging those that do and if it works for you cool! but tell me how it goes. So if your looking for your needle in a hay stack,relax and don’t try so hard it will come and prick you when your not looking.

Worship the Love of a Women


Hope all had a good weekend and have lots of story’s to tell. I have a only one story that is on my mind since Friday after I read it. One of the blogs I was reading from a wonderful person hit me like a ton of bricks. It was not so much the over all  idea but the way it was presented and written. I would make mention of who it is but want to show respect. As I read her blog I understood every detail as if I was watching her in my mind and could feel what she felt. As I re-read it multiple times I gathered the sense that some women are much deeper then men give them credit for. The reason I say worship the love of a women is because they are the mothers of life. They have a deeper sense of the word Love.

In days gone past women where worshiped for there unworldly abilities to provide guidance,love and understanding. Unfortunately the stronger women have become the more threatened man has become. This is not my theory it has been proven.

I read the inner beauty of a women on that Friday and it confirmed to me that there still are women out there who understand the deepness of the word love and what impact men have on there emotions. If you find a cold bitter manipulative women chances are it was a man who drove a knife into there soul.

I tip my hat to you..”R.J..”

Serendipity’s Tip for Winter Blues


Get out of the Winter Grip.. Wake up and get out of the house this weekend. Winter has a way of bringing your spirit down. The lack of sun (S.A.D.) and the cold winter gripping your body like a hug from someone you don’t want. I avoid the cold as much as possible so sorry if this post is a little harsh to the Winter Fairy’s out there who seem to love it. A good tip that may change your mood and keep your mind in one piece is to join indoor activities with people.Here is a good list of things you could do. I face this every winter and it is amazing how it makes you feel when you do join something.

1. Join a gym with a pool

2. Go tanning to combat (S.A.D)

3. Go to the mall once a week

4. Go to a Cafe with internet

5. Find little places to eat each week and hang out

6. Indoor paint Ball or Lazer Tag

7. Join an Art class at night.

8. Go to a Library

9. Go to a pub with friends and make it a habit

10. Volunteer  your time

If your alone in winter it’s not much fun, so get out there. Just because it is cold doesn’t mean Old Man Winter has you locked up dragging you to the pits of hell.   Also think of it this way, if your going out to these things and see a man or women doing the same..hmm I bet you already have one thing in command so chat it up. You never know when a good relationship will come knocking on the door even if the dam thing has an inch of snow and icicles hanging from the freakn’ door knocker…lol yes, I am not fond of winter.

Love…or in Love ?


 

(I will be joining the protest tomorrow morning until the 24th..the Government is trying to shut down freedom of speech and the freedoms of bloggers and websites. http://www.cbronline.com/news/google-and-wordpress-protest-anti-piracy-measures-in-us-congress-180112

Join the protest or all your work could be gone.. enough is enough 

I have asked myself this question a thousand times (OK once).  I have meet some people who still love there ex’s but then say “yeah but we are not in love”. I understand caring for another person but using the word love to describe how they feel about them..yeah don’t get that. I think this word used to be very strong but has been over used to the point it took on another meaning. You really have to do some thinking when you ask yourself this..”am I in love ?” …or “do I like him or her very much ? “.

Ask yourself this:

1. Do they fill my emotional needs

2. Do they want to see me sucseed

3. Do they still go out of there way to please me

4. Do they still appreciate what I do

5. Are they living for us or for themselves

6. Can they walk in the room and feel you (your energy)

7. do you still kiss (with emotion not lust)

8. do you still look in each others eyes

9. are we a team working on life’s problems

10. do you still sit on the couch together

If the answer is yes to 75% then you are In Love. If your only about 30% of this list talk to your partner and work on them. You can loose that energy if you let the simple things pass you buy. You can’t fix everything all the time and some things are just not meant to be but if deep down in your core of life you both still have the same feelings,don’t let them die or let life get in the way of your happiness.

VERSATILE BLOGGERS AWARD


VERSATILE BLOGGERS AWARD

I received this Award from http://ranujanu.wordpress.com and it made my day (shhh it’s the little things that get me going)

The Rules are:
Thank the award giver and link back to them in your post.
Share 7 things about yourself.
Pass this award along to 15 recently discovered blogs you enjoy reading.
Contact your bloggers to let them know about the award.

 

Now, 7 things about myself ?….lol hmmm

1. I love to travel and find new secrets in life

2. I never stop learning about people

3. I work my ass off developing companies who need help

4. When it comes to relationships I have had The Angle,The Demon, and the one who was both extremes in one (oufff this one got me) and the hollow Girls next door.

5. I can hold a good conversation on just about any topic (not a know it all) but my head is full of the coffee table conversations.

6. There is a heaven,I found it in Jamaica

7. I have interest in Photography (love my 60D) … Art  (Modigliani rules) Science, Marine Biology, All music, Erotica, Health and Wellness of the mind….(and others that are Taboo and ya ain’t gonna find out unless face to face…lol)

Blogs I would give this Award to would be:

1. http://blameitondisney.wordpress.com/ (for her honesty)

2. http://gogetterkat.wordpress.com/ (for her free spirit)

3. http://ranujanu.wordpress.com/ (for learning how to deal with life)

4. http://johndatesguys.wordpress.com (for being strong enough to be openly Gay)

5. http://emdashwood.wordpress.com/ (hmmm…give me a minute)

 

 

I know it said 15 but i’m not one for rules…;-P

 

 

 

 

Hammering it Home


When starting Serendipity Dating Cafe we had the intentions of bringing to the internet a clean well thought out dating site with the comfort of a social network. We have seen this grow every day and is doing well. This maybe a personal note to my self but, I am amazed at the impact this has had on some people online. Some of you have responded to me with nothing but honesty and support and I want to thank you. There is one in particular that stands out www.blameitondisney.wordpress.com .  Here is a women who wears her opinion on her sleeve and who is not afraid to be her self. To read her opinions is refreshing and gives me the want to try to change the face of online dating.

If I can   offer one word of advice to all who read this. Do not get caught up in the dating world or it will become your world and you will have a difficult time finding the one to get out of the dating scene. I meet a women who had been dating for 3 years. She told me all kinds of good stories and bad but, she did tell me she got to comfortable with her lifestyle and regretted not putting in the effort on some of her dates. Slow down,chose wisely and don’t stray from who you are. You don’t find love it finds you.

“Giving All your Secrets Away”


I heard a song today and for a long time could not for the life of me get out of my head. But, tonight it made perfect sense. There becomes a point in a relationship when things turn serious.  After thinking about it, at what point is it? I am sure it is at different points for each of you. When you have connected on levels you never though humanly possible…take a step back and ask your self..“Am I ready to give all my secretes away”… At this point there is no going back…your looking into there eyes and taking a leap of faith. You have to remember one thing, no matter how big or small a secrete is they all come out eventually. Imagine if you where able to just tell all and everything you thought was a secret turned out to not be so….big? You would have wasted all that time worrying and avoiding certain situations. If you have found someone that you can look into there eye’s and give all your secretes away,you most certainly have found Love and it is up to you to keep it.