With online dating,online social sites,online chat, online speed dating, online online online…yeah everything is online now and I do mean everything. Some say …”cool”…some say…”where is the real interaction”. For me I like both and you can have both if you keep it balanced. There is one thing I love about the internet though,Mysterious affection. What that means is connecting on a level you couldn’t in normal day to day life. So online you put your deepest emotions out there. Stories you couldn’t tell your best friend,things like this. The internet let you connect with people on a much deeper level at a faster pace then the real world. Where the mystery comes in is when you find someone who you admire very much you can show affection in so many ways without breaking the code of silence. It’s like you both are walking the same path in life “online” but you don’t want to breach into the real world. It would be at that point it becomes real and the mystery is over. The ones who don’t show there faces but have hearts of gold,the ones who wink,the ones who visit. Mysterious affection online is just like when you open a door for a women and they have the look of surprise on there face.So if someone online is having a bad day or is proud of something…let them know your there, it goes a long way in there lives.
Ever walk by someone and get a feeling in your stomach and your heart races? You feel as is there is some kind of energy surrounding just you two at the same time? You are captured by a sent from that person that is making your palms sweat. It may be there perfume or a combination of other things but wow it can stop a train. I can remember a time when walking on a board walk. I was not looking for love, sex or anything in between. I was there just to take some photos and to watch the sun set. From a distance I could see a women doing the same. We where walking closer and closer to each other from different directions. As we walked closer I could see she was taking photo’s of the same boat as I was. There was a small Pier I was heading to and so was she. We both wound up going up the same Pier at the same time. (I laughed to myself “hmmm chance or fate”). Well, either way it was interesting to me. She said hello before a word could go from my brain to my tong. She was attractive and wearing a beautiful sun dress with a bathing suit underneath. At this point there where no sweaty palms of butterfly’s because the sea breeze was kinda strong. We walked out to the end of the pier with small talk. It was at that moment the winds stopped and and so did my heart. This women was like an afrodisiac. I noticed her mood change as well. She asked me what kind of Cologne I was wearing. Funny thing was I wasn’t wearing any and neither was she.
To make a long story short, we talked as the sun went down just her and I out on the Pier. I said to her “I have to be honest with you, I would love it if we could talk some more”. She agreed and we meet up later that night for drinks at a really cool Pier restaurant. Again, her sent mixed with everything else was driving me wild. When she would move it would blow into my face and send a thump to my heart. I had to tell her about this because I needed to know if she felt the same (I know first date…i’m nuts). Her face got so red and she laughed and said “ahhh I didn’t want to say anything…lol” She then began to tell me the same thing and said “feel my palms…lol”. It was right after that the night became fun and romantic. I was glad I was myself and spoke up because we had a wonderful night. We ended the night with a good kiss out on the Pier and where going to do a photo shoot the next day. I went to pick her up and she invited me in. She was packed and ready to go, again the raw attraction overtook us. I kissed her again and paused. I could see her wheels turning in her head…in about 2 seconds she said “awww screw this”…and grabbed my arm and we went upstairs…needless to say we didn’t get out of the house that much that day. We ordered takeout and never looked back. This went on for about 2 years we had two different lives in 2 different states and could not connect the two because of jobs and certain family needs. But you never forget that smell from someone special in your life.
Get out of the Winter Grip.. Wake up and get out of the house this weekend. Winter has a way of bringing your spirit down. The lack of sun (S.A.D.) and the cold winter gripping your body like a hug from someone you don’t want. I avoid the cold as much as possible so sorry if this post is a little harsh to the Winter Fairy’s out there who seem to love it. A good tip that may change your mood and keep your mind in one piece is to join indoor activities with people.Here is a good list of things you could do. I face this every winter and it is amazing how it makes you feel when you do join something.
2. Go tanning to combat (S.A.D)
3. Go to the mall once a week
4. Go to a Cafe with internet
5. Find little places to eat each week and hang out
6. Indoor paint Ball or Lazer Tag
7. Join an Art class at night.
8. Go to a Library
9. Go to a pub with friends and make it a habit
10. Volunteer your time
If your alone in winter it’s not much fun, so get out there. Just because it is cold doesn’t mean Old Man Winter has you locked up dragging you to the pits of hell. Also think of it this way, if your going out to these things and see a man or women doing the same..hmm I bet you already have one thing in command so chat it up. You never know when a good relationship will come knocking on the door even if the dam thing has an inch of snow and icicles hanging from the freakn’ door knocker…lol yes, I am not fond of winter.
(I will be joining the protest tomorrow morning until the 24th..the Government is trying to shut down freedom of speech and the freedoms of bloggers and websites. http://www.cbronline.com/news/google-and-wordpress-protest-anti-piracy-measures-in-us-congress-180112)
Join the protest or all your work could be gone.. enough is enough
I have asked myself this question a thousand times (OK once). I have meet some people who still love there ex’s but then say “yeah but we are not in love”. I understand caring for another person but using the word love to describe how they feel about them..yeah don’t get that. I think this word used to be very strong but has been over used to the point it took on another meaning. You really have to do some thinking when you ask yourself this..”am I in love ?” …or “do I like him or her very much ? “.
1. Do they fill my emotional needs
2. Do they want to see me sucseed
3. Do they still go out of there way to please me
4. Do they still appreciate what I do
5. Are they living for us or for themselves
6. Can they walk in the room and feel you (your energy)
7. do you still kiss (with emotion not lust)
8. do you still look in each others eyes
9. are we a team working on life’s problems
10. do you still sit on the couch together
If the answer is yes to 75% then you are In Love. If your only about 30% of this list talk to your partner and work on them. You can loose that energy if you let the simple things pass you buy. You can’t fix everything all the time and some things are just not meant to be but if deep down in your core of life you both still have the same feelings,don’t let them die or let life get in the way of your happiness.
I heard a song today and for a long time could not for the life of me get out of my head. But, tonight it made perfect sense. There becomes a point in a relationship when things turn serious. After thinking about it, at what point is it? I am sure it is at different points for each of you. When you have connected on levels you never though humanly possible…take a step back and ask your self..“Am I ready to give all my secretes away”… At this point there is no going back…your looking into there eyes and taking a leap of faith. You have to remember one thing, no matter how big or small a secrete is they all come out eventually. Imagine if you where able to just tell all and everything you thought was a secret turned out to not be so….big? You would have wasted all that time worrying and avoiding certain situations. If you have found someone that you can look into there eye’s and give all your secretes away,you most certainly have found Love and it is up to you to keep it.
We thought today we would give our insight to having a long distance relationship.
. Will he/she move
. If I move what impact will this have on my family
. List ten things good and bad if you move (Job,location,…)
. List the Red Flags (really, put a red dot or flag on them)
. List ten things good or bad if the other person moves in (Job location,…)
. What time frame you are giving this relationship.
(love says wait forever. but reality says “you have to have a plan”)
These are just some of the top ones you should consider. It is important to understand that in a long distance relationship everything is multiplied by 10. Feelings and emotions run very high when your not together. Extra reassuring is always needed with this relationship. If your willing to do what it takes for that person then all will be fine. Do not move to quickly,you have your own comfort zone and should not let your heart run your mind.
We got a tip in this morning I wanted to share with you from one of our members. Betty had been speaking to another member for about a month. The other member decided to ask to meet some place local to him. This rose a big question in Betty’s mind…”Why would he make me drive so far ?”. Betty decided to go along with it and planned on asking him when she arrived.When she arrived the two had dinner. Now keep in mind they really hit it off and connected well online. She slid the question in while they where having coffee. His answer set her back in her chair. His response was “I didn’t want to drive all the way out there and find out it didn’t work out”. This sent so many signals to Betty that she was speechless for obvious reasons. So men out there,do not and I will repeat do not put yourself first when dating or meeting a women.
So today’s lists of don’ts: For Men
1. Pick a place that is close to you for a date
2. Automatically assume it may not work out
3. Waste the others persons time unless you are willing to commit to dating someone.
These simple things are being lost in our society. Dating in essence is natural . However, with the Internet it has opened a new bread of dater. With so many choices out there to see, we in general forget that these are real people with real lives. Serendipity Dating Cafe is not your average website. We are focusing on 30 and up. We do this because statistically people of this age have a better understanding of themselves. It’s not so much what you want in life at this age it is what you don’t want in your life. ..But this will be our next topic.