With online dating,online social sites,online chat, online speed dating, online online online…yeah everything is online now and I do mean everything. Some say …”cool”…some say…”where is the real interaction”. For me I like both and you can have both if you keep it balanced. There is one thing I love about the internet though,Mysterious affection. What that means is connecting on a level you couldn’t in normal day to day life. So online you put your deepest emotions out there. Stories you couldn’t tell your best friend,things like this. The internet let you connect with people on a much deeper level at a faster pace then the real world. Where the mystery comes in is when you find someone who you admire very much you can show affection in so many ways without breaking the code of silence. It’s like you both are walking the same path in life “online” but you don’t want to breach into the real world. It would be at that point it becomes real and the mystery is over. The ones who don’t show there faces but have hearts of gold,the ones who wink,the ones who visit. Mysterious affection online is just like when you open a door for a women and they have the look of surprise on there face.So if someone online is having a bad day or is proud of something…let them know your there, it goes a long way in there lives.
Love is like this…Finding a needle in a hat stack. Think about it, A big ol’ pile of hay standing right in front of you or better yet a picture you hold in your hand but the pile is the size of the world.Thousand’s and thousands of pieces of hay. Some big some small some with that green stuff I have no idea what it is and want to stay clear. But you know there is a needle in there somewhere right??…guess what? there is and there is more then one. We are taught “there somebody for everybody”..then if it doesn’t work out…guess what? they say ..”oooh you will find someone else”. Ever get the feeling that there are many many many needles out there to be found? I hope you do because there are and it is all about timing. Whether you want to hear it or not it is true. You will find that needle when your time has come. Even if your heart says..” I’m ready..grrr!!”. Sorry it just doesn’t work that way.Now for some maybe it’s not the same. Maybe your ok with meeting someone online or a speed date and it works for you and that’s grate.But most people to not fall into this category. They have a different way of finding that needle everyone talks about.I believe in fate or chance I have done the online thing and do now just to talk with people. I never did the speed dating thing,people are way to complicated to sum it up in 10 seconds…WTF shoot me before I sit down please.I am not judging those that do and if it works for you cool! but tell me how it goes. So if your looking for your needle in a hay stack,relax and don’t try so hard it will come and prick you when your not looking.
(I will be joining the protest tomorrow morning until the 24th..the Government is trying to shut down freedom of speech and the freedoms of bloggers and websites. http://www.cbronline.com/news/google-and-wordpress-protest-anti-piracy-measures-in-us-congress-180112)
Join the protest or all your work could be gone.. enough is enough
I have asked myself this question a thousand times (OK once). I have meet some people who still love there ex’s but then say “yeah but we are not in love”. I understand caring for another person but using the word love to describe how they feel about them..yeah don’t get that. I think this word used to be very strong but has been over used to the point it took on another meaning. You really have to do some thinking when you ask yourself this..”am I in love ?” …or “do I like him or her very much ? “.
1. Do they fill my emotional needs
2. Do they want to see me sucseed
3. Do they still go out of there way to please me
4. Do they still appreciate what I do
5. Are they living for us or for themselves
6. Can they walk in the room and feel you (your energy)
7. do you still kiss (with emotion not lust)
8. do you still look in each others eyes
9. are we a team working on life’s problems
10. do you still sit on the couch together
If the answer is yes to 75% then you are In Love. If your only about 30% of this list talk to your partner and work on them. You can loose that energy if you let the simple things pass you buy. You can’t fix everything all the time and some things are just not meant to be but if deep down in your core of life you both still have the same feelings,don’t let them die or let life get in the way of your happiness.
VERSATILE BLOGGERS AWARD
I received this Award from http://ranujanu.wordpress.com and it made my day (shhh it’s the little things that get me going)
The Rules are:
Thank the award giver and link back to them in your post.
Share 7 things about yourself.
Pass this award along to 15 recently discovered blogs you enjoy reading.
Contact your bloggers to let them know about the award.
Now, 7 things about myself ?….lol hmmm
1. I love to travel and find new secrets in life
2. I never stop learning about people
3. I work my ass off developing companies who need help
4. When it comes to relationships I have had The Angle,The Demon, and the one who was both extremes in one (oufff this one got me) and the hollow Girls next door.
5. I can hold a good conversation on just about any topic (not a know it all) but my head is full of the coffee table conversations.
6. There is a heaven,I found it in Jamaica
7. I have interest in Photography (love my 60D) … Art (Modigliani rules) Science, Marine Biology, All music, Erotica, Health and Wellness of the mind….(and others that are Taboo and ya ain’t gonna find out unless face to face…lol)
Blogs I would give this Award to would be:
1. http://blameitondisney.wordpress.com/ (for her honesty)
2. http://gogetterkat.wordpress.com/ (for her free spirit)
3. http://ranujanu.wordpress.com/ (for learning how to deal with life)
4. http://johndatesguys.wordpress.com (for being strong enough to be openly Gay)
5. http://emdashwood.wordpress.com/ (hmmm…give me a minute)
I know it said 15 but i’m not one for rules…;-P
First we can talk about the one who got broken up with. One of the hardest things to do is imagine life after a break up. Your head is saying you knew it was coming. But the heart still hopes and pushes on. If you stop and think…and gather up all you went through chances are your better off. life is a chain of events that puts you where you are to day. That saying “if it was meant to be ,it’s meant to be” is one rule you should always live by because it is true. The break up is not the end of a battle,it is the beginning of a new day for you. It’s going to be hard but you just won a medal because if your hurting, it says you cared and have a heart and someone else deserves it more then they did. So wipe the tears and take what you learned about yourself through that relationship and us it to what you DON”T want in your life.
Now, I have a few things to say to the people out there who did the breaking up. There comes a point in your mind long before you say “It’ s over”. Your not fooling anyone. You know long before whether or not your going to stay in the relationship before you announce it.Maybe your staying in it for the right time to say it or your still feeding on the relationship to cut it when your ready to. My point is do not drag a good person along until your ready to brake up. Have some guts, have some morals. When you start to have your own agenda outside of the relationship you need to let the other person know. Don’t use the relationship as a fall back if it doesn’t work out for you. It is selfish and cowardly and will haunt you in the end.
Every situation is different but the core of this topic is always the same. If your going to break up don’t use the person a day longer,do it. If your the one who gets broken up with, ware that medal with pride because you did everything you could he/she just didn’t deserve what you had to offer.
When starting Serendipity Dating Cafe we had the intentions of bringing to the internet a clean well thought out dating site with the comfort of a social network. We have seen this grow every day and is doing well. This maybe a personal note to my self but, I am amazed at the impact this has had on some people online. Some of you have responded to me with nothing but honesty and support and I want to thank you. There is one in particular that stands out www.blameitondisney.wordpress.com . Here is a women who wears her opinion on her sleeve and who is not afraid to be her self. To read her opinions is refreshing and gives me the want to try to change the face of online dating.
If I can offer one word of advice to all who read this. Do not get caught up in the dating world or it will become your world and you will have a difficult time finding the one to get out of the dating scene. I meet a women who had been dating for 3 years. She told me all kinds of good stories and bad but, she did tell me she got to comfortable with her lifestyle and regretted not putting in the effort on some of her dates. Slow down,chose wisely and don’t stray from who you are. You don’t find love it finds you.
Once upon a time there was this thing called being a Gentlemen. These days with independent strong women, some men find themselves forgetting the simple things that Gentlemen did to show respect to there date. Women still love this even if they say they don’t. If your out on a date for the first time or even your 100th time be the man, be the Gentlemen. Sure, there is your normal things you do like opening the door, complimenting on there looks and what you see on TV. But there are so many things you can do to show you are a Gentleman.
- Plan the date (all of it) but keep her interest at heart.
- Call 10 min. before you arrive to pick her up
- Bring her one flower (not everything in the store)
- Waite for her to say “ok, I’m ready to go”
- Tell her she looks wonderful but look in her eyes when you do this.
- Always let the women lead never step in front of her.
- Let her talk and feel comfortable
Try to think outside of the box on a date. Don’t act like a robot, women can see right through this. You will get an A for effort but the date will end sooner then you think. My point is don’t try so hard you look like a stumbling fool. Let the date flow but always think ahead to make her feel comfortable.