The Sent of a Women


Ever walk by someone and get a feeling in your stomach and your heart races? You feel as is there is some kind of energy surrounding just you two at the same time? You are captured by a sent from that person that is making your palms sweat. It may be there perfume or a combination of other things but wow it can stop a train. I can remember a time when walking on a board walk. I was not looking for love, sex or anything in between. I was there just to take some photos and to watch the sun set. From a distance I could see a women doing the same. We where walking closer and closer to each other from different directions. As we walked closer I could see she was taking photo’s of the same boat as I was. There was a small Pier I was heading to and so was she. We both wound up going up the same Pier at the same time. (I laughed to myself “hmmm chance or fate”). Well, either way it was interesting to me. She said hello before a word could go from my brain to my tong. She was attractive and wearing a beautiful sun dress with a bathing suit underneath. At this point there where no sweaty palms of butterfly’s because the sea breeze was kinda strong. We walked out to the end of the pier with small talk. It was at that moment the winds stopped and and so did my heart. This women was like an afrodisiac I noticed her mood change as well. She asked me what kind of Cologne I was wearing. Funny thing was I wasn’t wearing any and neither was she.

To make a long story short, we talked as the sun went down just her and I out on the Pier. I said to her “I have to be honest with you, I would love it if we could talk some more”. She agreed and we meet up later that night for drinks at a really cool Pier restaurant. Again, her sent mixed with everything else was driving me wild. When she would move it would blow into my face and send a thump to my heart. I had to tell her about this because I needed to know if she felt the same (I know first date…i’m nuts). Her face got so red and she laughed and said “ahhh I didn’t want to say anything…lol” She then began to tell me the same thing and said “feel my palms…lol”. It was right after that the night became fun and romantic. I was glad I was myself and spoke up because we had a wonderful night. We ended the night with a good kiss out on the Pier and where going to do a photo shoot the next day. I went to pick her up and she invited me in. She was packed and ready to go, again the raw attraction overtook us. I kissed her again and paused. I could see her wheels turning in her head…in about 2 seconds she said “awww screw this”…and grabbed my arm and we went upstairs…needless to say we didn’t get out of the house that much that day. We ordered takeout and never looked back. This went on for about 2 years we had two different lives in 2 different states and could not connect the two because of jobs and certain family needs. But you never forget that smell from someone special in your life.

VERSATILE BLOGGERS AWARD


VERSATILE BLOGGERS AWARD

I received this Award from http://ranujanu.wordpress.com and it made my day (shhh it’s the little things that get me going)

The Rules are:
Thank the award giver and link back to them in your post.
Share 7 things about yourself.
Pass this award along to 15 recently discovered blogs you enjoy reading.
Contact your bloggers to let them know about the award.

 

Now, 7 things about myself ?….lol hmmm

1. I love to travel and find new secrets in life

2. I never stop learning about people

3. I work my ass off developing companies who need help

4. When it comes to relationships I have had The Angle,The Demon, and the one who was both extremes in one (oufff this one got me) and the hollow Girls next door.

5. I can hold a good conversation on just about any topic (not a know it all) but my head is full of the coffee table conversations.

6. There is a heaven,I found it in Jamaica

7. I have interest in Photography (love my 60D) … Art  (Modigliani rules) Science, Marine Biology, All music, Erotica, Health and Wellness of the mind….(and others that are Taboo and ya ain’t gonna find out unless face to face…lol)

Blogs I would give this Award to would be:

1. http://blameitondisney.wordpress.com/ (for her honesty)

2. http://gogetterkat.wordpress.com/ (for her free spirit)

3. http://ranujanu.wordpress.com/ (for learning how to deal with life)

4. http://johndatesguys.wordpress.com (for being strong enough to be openly Gay)

5. http://emdashwood.wordpress.com/ (hmmm…give me a minute)

 

 

I know it said 15 but i’m not one for rules…;-P

 

 

 

 

Scars?…or War Medals? the break up


First we can talk about the one who got broken up with. One of the hardest things to do is imagine  life after a break up. Your head is saying you knew it was coming. But the heart still hopes and pushes on. If you stop and think…and gather up all you went through chances are your better off. life is a chain of events that puts you where you are to day. That saying “if it was meant to be ,it’s meant to be” is one rule you should always live by because it is true. The break up is not the end of a battle,it is the beginning of a new day for you. It’s going to be hard but you just won a medal because if your hurting, it says you cared and have a heart and someone else deserves it more then they did. So wipe the tears and take what you learned about yourself through that relationship and us it to what you DON”T want in your life.

Now, I have a few things to say to the people out there who did the breaking up. There comes a point in your mind long before you say “It’ s over”. Your not fooling anyone. You know long before whether or not your going to stay in the relationship before you announce it.Maybe your staying in it for the right time to say it or your still feeding on the relationship to cut it when your ready to. My point is do not drag a good person along until your ready to brake up. Have some guts, have some morals. When you start to have your own agenda outside of the relationship you need to let the other person know. Don’t use the relationship as a fall back if it doesn’t work out for you. It is selfish and cowardly and will haunt you in the end.

Every situation is different but the core of this topic is always the same. If your going to break up don’t use the person a day longer,do it. If your the one who gets broken up with, ware that medal with pride because you did everything you could he/she just didn’t deserve what you had to offer.

Hammering it Home


When starting Serendipity Dating Cafe we had the intentions of bringing to the internet a clean well thought out dating site with the comfort of a social network. We have seen this grow every day and is doing well. This maybe a personal note to my self but, I am amazed at the impact this has had on some people online. Some of you have responded to me with nothing but honesty and support and I want to thank you. There is one in particular that stands out www.blameitondisney.wordpress.com .  Here is a women who wears her opinion on her sleeve and who is not afraid to be her self. To read her opinions is refreshing and gives me the want to try to change the face of online dating.

If I can   offer one word of advice to all who read this. Do not get caught up in the dating world or it will become your world and you will have a difficult time finding the one to get out of the dating scene. I meet a women who had been dating for 3 years. She told me all kinds of good stories and bad but, she did tell me she got to comfortable with her lifestyle and regretted not putting in the effort on some of her dates. Slow down,chose wisely and don’t stray from who you are. You don’t find love it finds you.

Long Distant Relationship’s


We have spoken about this in a previous post. Due to the questions I received, I feel we should cover a few more details that may help you along the way. I am speaking of this  living day to day with it. I have been in 2 long distant relationships. One from Belarus and one from Canada.

The biggest hurdle  is time. You can profess  all the love and support in the world but at some point it has to become real. Time in these relationships is the killer. Think of it as a time bomb…tick…tick…tick. You have to understand that emotions will run very high because in your heart (mind) you have found your love in life. You can have the perfect plan put together and both work toward it with everything you have. Maybe it’s a year plan or even a 6 month plan. The issue is Time has a way of slowing you down (can’t quit your job as soon as you thought, trouble with and ex, money..and so on). There are so many factors that come without notice.

Long distant relationships can work and I know they do but before you talk with your heart, stop and think with your head and follow through with it. You need more then one or two meeting to decide if your going to follow through with it. Look at everything when you meet,your not on a vacation. Pay attention to the friends and family…use your head and investigate a little. Watch for signs and try to pick up on little details that would raise a Red Flag that may keep you from being happy in the relationship. Learn all you can about the person before you jump in with both feet….but jump before time runs out and the energy disappears…Tick…Tick…Tick

Standing the test of time…


Serendipity Dating Cafe wanted to take some time to give thanks to the ones who have made it. For the ones who have stood the test of time and who have made it through good times and bad times. Times have changed and so has the standards for relationships. The world has become so fast and free, temptation is always looking at you from the other side of the fence. For the ones who trusted in there partners and kept there head and heart in there relationship they deserve nothing but respect. Not only for there knowledge of life but also there ability to stand the test of time.

A word of advice, if your in a relationship live for that relationship. If your not in a relationship do not settle for anything less then someone who understands the tests of time and works with you not against you.

Long Distance Relationships Check List


We thought today we would give our insight to having a long distance relationship.

To start it is becoming normal to speak or try to meet someone in another state or even another country. There is no harm in this,what better way then to think outside the box and expand your way of thinking. This was true for one couple I had spoken to. There are many pitfalls when it comes to long distance relationships and it take much more then you would think. However, it can be done but, you have to be committed to doing it 100%. If you meet someone from Texas and you live in New York and you seem to hit it off well. Do a check list with your self and the relationship before committing to anything more then pen pals.Ask yourself this:

. Will he/she move

. If I move what impact will this have on my family

. List ten things good and bad if you move (Job,location,…)

. List the Red Flags (really, put a red dot or flag on them)

. List ten things good or bad if the other person moves in (Job location,…)

. What time frame you are giving this relationship.

(love says wait forever. but reality says “you have to have a plan”)

These are just some of the top ones you should consider. It is important to understand that in a long distance relationship everything is multiplied by 10. Feelings and emotions run very high when your not together. Extra reassuring  is always needed with this relationship. If your willing to do what it takes for that person then all will be fine. Do not move to quickly,you have your own comfort zone and should not let your heart run your mind.