Needle in a Hay Stack


Love is like this…Finding a needle in a hat stack. Think about it, A big ol’ pile of hay standing right in front of you or better yet a picture you hold in your hand but the pile is the size of the world.Thousand’s and thousands of pieces of hay. Some big some small some with that green stuff I have no idea what it is and want to stay clear. But you know there is a needle in there somewhere right??…guess what? there is and there is more then one. We are taught “there somebody for everybody”..then if it doesn’t work out…guess what? they say ..”oooh you will find someone else”. Ever get the feeling that there are many many many needles out there to be found? I hope you do because there are and it is all about timing. Whether you want to hear it or not it is true. You will find that needle when your time has come. Even if your heart says..” I’m ready..grrr!!”. Sorry it just doesn’t work that way.Now for some maybe it’s not the same. Maybe your ok with meeting someone online or a speed date and it works for you and that’s grate.But most people to not fall into this category. They have a different way of finding that needle everyone talks about.I believe in fate or chance I have done the online thing and do now just to talk with people. I never did the speed dating thing,people are way to complicated to sum it up in 10 seconds…WTF shoot me before I sit down please.I am not judging those that do and if it works for you cool! but tell me how it goes. So if your looking for your needle in a hay stack,relax and don’t try so hard it will come and prick you when your not looking.

Worship the Love of a Women


Hope all had a good weekend and have lots of story’s to tell. I have a only one story that is on my mind since Friday after I read it. One of the blogs I was reading from a wonderful person hit me like a ton of bricks. It was not so much the over all  idea but the way it was presented and written. I would make mention of who it is but want to show respect. As I read her blog I understood every detail as if I was watching her in my mind and could feel what she felt. As I re-read it multiple times I gathered the sense that some women are much deeper then men give them credit for. The reason I say worship the love of a women is because they are the mothers of life. They have a deeper sense of the word Love.

In days gone past women where worshiped for there unworldly abilities to provide guidance,love and understanding. Unfortunately the stronger women have become the more threatened man has become. This is not my theory it has been proven.

I read the inner beauty of a women on that Friday and it confirmed to me that there still are women out there who understand the deepness of the word love and what impact men have on there emotions. If you find a cold bitter manipulative women chances are it was a man who drove a knife into there soul.

I tip my hat to you..”R.J..”

The Sent of a Women


Ever walk by someone and get a feeling in your stomach and your heart races? You feel as is there is some kind of energy surrounding just you two at the same time? You are captured by a sent from that person that is making your palms sweat. It may be there perfume or a combination of other things but wow it can stop a train. I can remember a time when walking on a board walk. I was not looking for love, sex or anything in between. I was there just to take some photos and to watch the sun set. From a distance I could see a women doing the same. We where walking closer and closer to each other from different directions. As we walked closer I could see she was taking photo’s of the same boat as I was. There was a small Pier I was heading to and so was she. We both wound up going up the same Pier at the same time. (I laughed to myself “hmmm chance or fate”). Well, either way it was interesting to me. She said hello before a word could go from my brain to my tong. She was attractive and wearing a beautiful sun dress with a bathing suit underneath. At this point there where no sweaty palms of butterfly’s because the sea breeze was kinda strong. We walked out to the end of the pier with small talk. It was at that moment the winds stopped and and so did my heart. This women was like an afrodisiac I noticed her mood change as well. She asked me what kind of Cologne I was wearing. Funny thing was I wasn’t wearing any and neither was she.

To make a long story short, we talked as the sun went down just her and I out on the Pier. I said to her “I have to be honest with you, I would love it if we could talk some more”. She agreed and we meet up later that night for drinks at a really cool Pier restaurant. Again, her sent mixed with everything else was driving me wild. When she would move it would blow into my face and send a thump to my heart. I had to tell her about this because I needed to know if she felt the same (I know first date…i’m nuts). Her face got so red and she laughed and said “ahhh I didn’t want to say anything…lol” She then began to tell me the same thing and said “feel my palms…lol”. It was right after that the night became fun and romantic. I was glad I was myself and spoke up because we had a wonderful night. We ended the night with a good kiss out on the Pier and where going to do a photo shoot the next day. I went to pick her up and she invited me in. She was packed and ready to go, again the raw attraction overtook us. I kissed her again and paused. I could see her wheels turning in her head…in about 2 seconds she said “awww screw this”…and grabbed my arm and we went upstairs…needless to say we didn’t get out of the house that much that day. We ordered takeout and never looked back. This went on for about 2 years we had two different lives in 2 different states and could not connect the two because of jobs and certain family needs. But you never forget that smell from someone special in your life.

Serendipity’s Tip for Winter Blues


Get out of the Winter Grip.. Wake up and get out of the house this weekend. Winter has a way of bringing your spirit down. The lack of sun (S.A.D.) and the cold winter gripping your body like a hug from someone you don’t want. I avoid the cold as much as possible so sorry if this post is a little harsh to the Winter Fairy’s out there who seem to love it. A good tip that may change your mood and keep your mind in one piece is to join indoor activities with people.Here is a good list of things you could do. I face this every winter and it is amazing how it makes you feel when you do join something.

1. Join a gym with a pool

2. Go tanning to combat (S.A.D)

3. Go to the mall once a week

4. Go to a Cafe with internet

5. Find little places to eat each week and hang out

6. Indoor paint Ball or Lazer Tag

7. Join an Art class at night.

8. Go to a Library

9. Go to a pub with friends and make it a habit

10. Volunteer  your time

If your alone in winter it’s not much fun, so get out there. Just because it is cold doesn’t mean Old Man Winter has you locked up dragging you to the pits of hell.   Also think of it this way, if your going out to these things and see a man or women doing the same..hmm I bet you already have one thing in command so chat it up. You never know when a good relationship will come knocking on the door even if the dam thing has an inch of snow and icicles hanging from the freakn’ door knocker…lol yes, I am not fond of winter.

VERSATILE BLOGGERS AWARD


VERSATILE BLOGGERS AWARD

I received this Award from http://ranujanu.wordpress.com and it made my day (shhh it’s the little things that get me going)

The Rules are:
Thank the award giver and link back to them in your post.
Share 7 things about yourself.
Pass this award along to 15 recently discovered blogs you enjoy reading.
Contact your bloggers to let them know about the award.

 

Now, 7 things about myself ?….lol hmmm

1. I love to travel and find new secrets in life

2. I never stop learning about people

3. I work my ass off developing companies who need help

4. When it comes to relationships I have had The Angle,The Demon, and the one who was both extremes in one (oufff this one got me) and the hollow Girls next door.

5. I can hold a good conversation on just about any topic (not a know it all) but my head is full of the coffee table conversations.

6. There is a heaven,I found it in Jamaica

7. I have interest in Photography (love my 60D) … Art  (Modigliani rules) Science, Marine Biology, All music, Erotica, Health and Wellness of the mind….(and others that are Taboo and ya ain’t gonna find out unless face to face…lol)

Blogs I would give this Award to would be:

1. http://blameitondisney.wordpress.com/ (for her honesty)

2. http://gogetterkat.wordpress.com/ (for her free spirit)

3. http://ranujanu.wordpress.com/ (for learning how to deal with life)

4. http://johndatesguys.wordpress.com (for being strong enough to be openly Gay)

5. http://emdashwood.wordpress.com/ (hmmm…give me a minute)

 

 

I know it said 15 but i’m not one for rules…;-P

 

 

 

 

Hammering it Home


When starting Serendipity Dating Cafe we had the intentions of bringing to the internet a clean well thought out dating site with the comfort of a social network. We have seen this grow every day and is doing well. This maybe a personal note to my self but, I am amazed at the impact this has had on some people online. Some of you have responded to me with nothing but honesty and support and I want to thank you. There is one in particular that stands out www.blameitondisney.wordpress.com .  Here is a women who wears her opinion on her sleeve and who is not afraid to be her self. To read her opinions is refreshing and gives me the want to try to change the face of online dating.

If I can   offer one word of advice to all who read this. Do not get caught up in the dating world or it will become your world and you will have a difficult time finding the one to get out of the dating scene. I meet a women who had been dating for 3 years. She told me all kinds of good stories and bad but, she did tell me she got to comfortable with her lifestyle and regretted not putting in the effort on some of her dates. Slow down,chose wisely and don’t stray from who you are. You don’t find love it finds you.

Profile Description’s…Your what??


Your looking for what?? I think it is safe to say we all have read some doozys out there. From the guy who thinks a women is going to magically appear and then disappear when ever he wants or the women who wants the guy riding the white horse on a crusade to find love…..hmmm. Society teaches us to look for these things. Finding your perfect match really isn’t that hard, finding love is another story. In your essay be real and be honest with yourself. There is a difference in a dream and the reality. Most successful relationships online come from two people who did not hide anything in there profile. Another way of looking at it is list things you don’t want mixed in with what you do want. The reason I say this is we all want and when we get it we want more. You want a guy/girl to love you ,be mature,have a job and bla bla bla…this is kind of a no brainr’ don’t you think?

When doing a profile try to add things:

1. You will not sacrifice for anyone.

2. You would like to accomplish in your life

3. That you plan to do in the next 6 months

4. That you feel are romantic to you

5. That you feel are fun to you (reality not the dream)

The internet is fast almost like Speed Dating on Speed. If you combine more of what you don’t want your more likely to attract someone who is honest and willing to prove to you that hey are someone who agrees with you. In that split second someone reads “I will not move out of my town”…they say to themselves “Well, I’m not going to move to her/him”…case closed!  Some miss this simple things and try and try and go round and round to only end up with a lot of hurt and time wasted.