With online dating,online social sites,online chat, online speed dating, online online online…yeah everything is online now and I do mean everything. Some say …”cool”…some say…”where is the real interaction”. For me I like both and you can have both if you keep it balanced. There is one thing I love about the internet though,Mysterious affection. What that means is connecting on a level you couldn’t in normal day to day life. So online you put your deepest emotions out there. Stories you couldn’t tell your best friend,things like this. The internet let you connect with people on a much deeper level at a faster pace then the real world. Where the mystery comes in is when you find someone who you admire very much you can show affection in so many ways without breaking the code of silence. It’s like you both are walking the same path in life “online” but you don’t want to breach into the real world. It would be at that point it becomes real and the mystery is over. The ones who don’t show there faces but have hearts of gold,the ones who wink,the ones who visit. Mysterious affection online is just like when you open a door for a women and they have the look of surprise on there face.So if someone online is having a bad day or is proud of something…let them know your there, it goes a long way in there lives.
Ever walk by someone and get a feeling in your stomach and your heart races? You feel as is there is some kind of energy surrounding just you two at the same time? You are captured by a sent from that person that is making your palms sweat. It may be there perfume or a combination of other things but wow it can stop a train. I can remember a time when walking on a board walk. I was not looking for love, sex or anything in between. I was there just to take some photos and to watch the sun set. From a distance I could see a women doing the same. We where walking closer and closer to each other from different directions. As we walked closer I could see she was taking photo’s of the same boat as I was. There was a small Pier I was heading to and so was she. We both wound up going up the same Pier at the same time. (I laughed to myself “hmmm chance or fate”). Well, either way it was interesting to me. She said hello before a word could go from my brain to my tong. She was attractive and wearing a beautiful sun dress with a bathing suit underneath. At this point there where no sweaty palms of butterfly’s because the sea breeze was kinda strong. We walked out to the end of the pier with small talk. It was at that moment the winds stopped and and so did my heart. This women was like an afrodisiac. I noticed her mood change as well. She asked me what kind of Cologne I was wearing. Funny thing was I wasn’t wearing any and neither was she.
To make a long story short, we talked as the sun went down just her and I out on the Pier. I said to her “I have to be honest with you, I would love it if we could talk some more”. She agreed and we meet up later that night for drinks at a really cool Pier restaurant. Again, her sent mixed with everything else was driving me wild. When she would move it would blow into my face and send a thump to my heart. I had to tell her about this because I needed to know if she felt the same (I know first date…i’m nuts). Her face got so red and she laughed and said “ahhh I didn’t want to say anything…lol” She then began to tell me the same thing and said “feel my palms…lol”. It was right after that the night became fun and romantic. I was glad I was myself and spoke up because we had a wonderful night. We ended the night with a good kiss out on the Pier and where going to do a photo shoot the next day. I went to pick her up and she invited me in. She was packed and ready to go, again the raw attraction overtook us. I kissed her again and paused. I could see her wheels turning in her head…in about 2 seconds she said “awww screw this”…and grabbed my arm and we went upstairs…needless to say we didn’t get out of the house that much that day. We ordered takeout and never looked back. This went on for about 2 years we had two different lives in 2 different states and could not connect the two because of jobs and certain family needs. But you never forget that smell from someone special in your life.
Get out of the Winter Grip.. Wake up and get out of the house this weekend. Winter has a way of bringing your spirit down. The lack of sun (S.A.D.) and the cold winter gripping your body like a hug from someone you don’t want. I avoid the cold as much as possible so sorry if this post is a little harsh to the Winter Fairy’s out there who seem to love it. A good tip that may change your mood and keep your mind in one piece is to join indoor activities with people.Here is a good list of things you could do. I face this every winter and it is amazing how it makes you feel when you do join something.
2. Go tanning to combat (S.A.D)
3. Go to the mall once a week
4. Go to a Cafe with internet
5. Find little places to eat each week and hang out
6. Indoor paint Ball or Lazer Tag
7. Join an Art class at night.
8. Go to a Library
9. Go to a pub with friends and make it a habit
10. Volunteer your time
If your alone in winter it’s not much fun, so get out there. Just because it is cold doesn’t mean Old Man Winter has you locked up dragging you to the pits of hell. Also think of it this way, if your going out to these things and see a man or women doing the same..hmm I bet you already have one thing in command so chat it up. You never know when a good relationship will come knocking on the door even if the dam thing has an inch of snow and icicles hanging from the freakn’ door knocker…lol yes, I am not fond of winter.
Lets face it,men want volume and women want quality. The never ending bedroom brawl as I call it. There are about a million things you can do in a relationship to balance this out for both of you. Just like everything else in a relationship it takes time to learn what each expects. I think Sigmund Freud said that everything revolves around sex. To a point he is correct. To begin with sex starts in the mind. The playful conversation or that romantic dinner,whatever has sparked the mood is the beginning of mental foreplay. One Technic I have learned is that the more you have mental foreplay the more healthy the sex. Most guys are bing bang boom! where as the women is more aroused with the mental foreplay and likes to build her emotions to boiling points. Touching a women’s neck or playing with her hair in combination with the romantic dinner will stimulate quality sex,not your bing bang boom.
1. Lust fades
2. Fire’s lose flames
3. Energy fades
4. Time passes
All these things happen every day. It is up to you to keep the fire burning,the attraction flowing, and the want and desire to please your partner. There are many parts to a relationship and the bedroom is one of the most important tools you can use to keep you in a happy and healthy relationship. Learn how to use it with your partner.
This topic may have a lot to do with some of us out there.We should talk about growing together first. When you first meet there is an energy between the two of you sparks fly and smiles abound. This time period binds you together like glue and you feel nothing can separate the two of you. This is good as long as you understand that life will try everything to pull it apart. It is your choice and yours alone to withstand the tests of life. Relationships take work,some more then others. If you have good communication and the ability to compromise equally you have a very good chance of withstanding the tests of life.Growing together to form a stronger bond then when you first meet is the key. You have to remember your a team in life.
Now lets talk about growing apart. In each relationship there are many reasons why you grow apart. Communication breakdown,wants and desires not meet, the list is endless unfortunately for this. Think of growing apart like this, in the beginning 1+1=2 right? now think of it like 1+2=2…not right hu.. or 2+5=2 . Every time he or she does something that you don’t like or agree on the number goes up. Before you decide to end anything,see if you can bring it to there attention and if it is something they can work on. 1+1=2 always and 2+5=2 at the end will never add up to a good relationship.
This is something I would like to talk to everyone about. Some of you out there may not understand the importance of this. What happens when you take a balloon and rub it on your head? The static energy makes your hair stand up and makes your head tingle right? The same can be said for human touch from your partner.
If you walk by her/him and just place your hand on there back it is a sign of affection that triggers there mind to feel comfort. To many time these small but powerful gestures get lost in the everyday life of a couple. Affection is one of the leading components in a good relationship. For some men it is hard for them to display affection and some women too. However affection comes in many forms.
1. Call him/her for no reason
2. Rub her/his shoulders while talking
4. buy her favorite cookies for no reason
5. when you talk stop and look at each other
These are just some of the primitive things you can do. I want you to test this and I’ll bet you will see a big difference in your man or women. Days of buying flowers to get out of the dog house are over. That form of affection only works when it is done from the heart not “oohh crap I got to do something”.You have to reconnect to that spark that started the fire.